emotions 'n' motions
'I am not emotional', how many times have we heard that, not only from others but very often we saying it ourselves. Being emotional is percieved to be a weak link, a sore spot, a chink in the armour; which the whole bad world is waiting to exploit.
Why is that we so scared of being emotional, is it that bad? I would say its a misunderstood notion,
emotions are expressed feelings. Frowning in disgust, punching or leaping in the air when overjoyed, clutching of fists in anticipiation & even crying; they are all different forms of emotions, reflective of our feelings.
Thus emotions are a '
mirror image' of our mental state. Now this is where the crux of the problem lies. Anyone can peek into us through this outlet. They can use it to their advantage & they do. So what to do
simple: stop being emotional. Does that mean I keep all my thoughts to myself. Now we all know thats not possible, neither is it prudent.
We all need an outlet to express ourselves, what's crucial is
choosing the right one. Its about exercising caution & have a firm control over yourself & ofcourse your emotions.
Picture this: A person with whom you are just an acquitance at best, telling you story about his/her personal life. All the time you keep nodding your head in approval but inside you are wondering, 'why the hell is she telling me all this, how am I concerned?' You the value of that person goes down in your eyes. Its for you choose the right platform (as in the people) for sharing your precious feelings,
not everyone needs to be told everything. Ever had a sudden outburst on someone, where out of no where you find a reason to be angry & shout at someone. Happens to the best of people. We are not able to control our feelings & lash out. I can't shout at my boss so what my girl friend is there. Hey if you are upset or not in a good mood, this is no reason for
rude behaviour
(my dear friend helped me realize it). You may spoil your perfectly good relations with a single stroke of foolishness. You can fret, regret, apologize; why not control it.
Emotions ought to be expressed, but with due care. After all
'emotions drive our motions'.
Men will be men
Somethings never change, atleast not so easily, one of them is guys. Now you can change a habit but not the 'tendency'. Its natural for a guy to be infactuated by a pretty lady. Hey if you happen to know a gorgeous girl & better you are friends with her, its but natural for you to be all over the girl. Now the what the girl thinks is another story but the guy would leave no stone unturned to make her feel
'special'. 'There is no harm in flirting as long as there is no one whom it is hurting', I reckon. Well let us be candid about it, though women may never admit it, but even they enjoy being flattered. The guy raking in a moolah about her looks, loading her with compliements, blabing blabing all day till his throat & mind both wear out; but the girl still does't relent (
how heartless was that). If the guy doesn't hit upon the girl, under normal circumstances, there is something really wrong with his orientation towards women.
The stage is now set, if things fall in place very soon the two good friends will be a
couple or they will fall apart & perhaps remain just...you know what. Now I have done my bit to woo this truly amazing girl ('n' I mean it from the bottom of my heart) but she has given me confusing signals. Either she is shy (highly unlikely) or she is not intersted and wants to be 'just freinds'. Very well then if she is having her qualms, its her choice, life moves on.
I tell you what I met this wonderful girl in the college the other day. I was supposed to be taking my examination but I ended up being
mezmerised. All of the time I kept staring at her & she just smiled. She took my heart that very instant.The best part is, not only is she hot 'n' beautiful but above all very sweet & gentle. She has that elegance & sophistication that every guy wants in his girl. I was, I admit absolutely smitten by this living angel.
So much so that instead of writing my paper I ended up writing hers. At that instant she was more important to me than even the exam, end of all when she sweetly pecked my cheek, with her hand though, & said thanks..... oh man! I was in seventh heaven.
If you think I am a casanova, think again. I have said it & I say it again
I love that girl. But neither am I a
Romeo & nor is she
Juliet. Lets be practical, if she doesn't care for my feelings, I don't care for her. 'Love but don't expect' such notions are passé. If she thinks that I am her toy which she can play with have fun & then discard, then she is in for a rude shock. I refuse to be a pupet in her hands whom she can dance to her tunes. If you are not interseted neither am I & as they say
'there are plenty of fish in the pond.' (as I just found out)
Some of you may find me to be harsh, arrogant & impatient but I am what I am. Love me or hate me but I cannot pledge my self respect at the mercy of anyone.
Love for me has a meaning only if it is reciprocated, one sided feelings can only lead to only pain, pain ....'n' more pain& all that in nothing but vain.
Temperament
For the past few days I had been feeling uneasy & restless. There was a lot on my mind but some how couldn't manage it out. It was perturbing me a lot but what was it. But now I know it, I tell you what, for the last so many days I haven't talked to her.
'So call her stupid' I know I can but I also know for sure that
she has been ignoring me. Now this happens all the time, with most of us (guys who are single). It all begins seemingly well, we meet a girl, become friends, even get pally & before you know you start having feelings for her (read as infactuation). It is then you start thinking, 'Boss what next. Is it the right time to strike'. But wait there is more to it.
This is a catch 22 situation. You are at good terms with the girl. You share a good relationship but still there is lack of
personal intimacy. If you go ahead & propose the girl, you are uncertain about her reaction. If she says 'yes' then it is the best thing to have ever happened to you. Do you want to ride your luck. If she gets infuriated, your existing relationship would be hampered. It is a big gamble & you don't want to risk your friendship.
Now when you meet the girl you are in a confused state of mind. Half of your mind is admiring her & the other half, trying to charm her. Somehow or the other you want to unravel her feelings. Hard luck my friend she is a hard nut to crack (well most girls are, its god's gift to all women I guess)
Result: you end up nowhere. She wants you to please her, tease her, make her feel special (which by the way she is), but at that point of time you can't hink of anything at all. She gets bored after a while & turns off. Boom..... now thats not good.
You feel like an ass & kick yourself a million times but it won't change anything. This is where your
temperament counts. Now if you try to please her all the time, it might just have the opposite affect. She would take you for granted. Instead of getting close to her & forging ahead in your realtionship, you end up just trying to make sure you don't hurt her.
'Yaar I love her but I dont want to hurt her feelings. Usko bura lag gaya to.' For god's sake people, we are not here to please others all the time. Life is too short to live upto our own expectations & if you start living it for other's, you had it.
[A word of caution: this should not be mistaken for ego. Ego is bad & it is more of being obsessed with one's self. But this is more to do with self respect. I am not to compromise on my pride. If you don't value yourself, well then who will.]
Not trying is a crime but overdoing it is a big mistake. Its tough but a right mix of
'pull' n 'push' is what is required. Do whatever you may deem fit to try 'n' attract her, fascinate her, please her, tease her,inshort do whatever it takes; but in a
subtle way.
Subliminal, now thats the word, you do it in the most
uncanny & uncharectersitc (stealthy) fashion that the other person doesnt even notice when you did it. What you wanted to say all this time, is then automatically conveyed. Then is the time to strike, ask her the question. Leave no stone unturned to make her feel
special & when you feel its right, more often than not there is no fight.
But in this quest don't lose track of yourself & remember:Don't give anyone so much importance, That you get affected by their ignorance.
Me first
We are taught to 'share' & be considerate & think of others right from our childhood. 'Don't be selfish' but we are never exactly told what 'selfish' means. Does that mean if I think of myself before others, I am selfish? No, I would say. As far as my understanding goes, if for your own vested interests you disregard someone else's, caring unduly for yourself at the expense of others, this is being selfish. Which by no means is justified, neither do I have any intentions of proving it otherwise.
The only point I would like to drive home is the distinction between
self-interest & selfishness. Caring about yourself is no crime. '
Help yourself & then help others.' This is true for now 'n' for eternity. Let me give an illustration to explain my view-point further.
Long ago, a young merchant was travelling through the desert. During his odyssey, a great desert storm struck him & he was seperated from the rest of the caravan. Having lost his track, he got himself in the middle of
nowhere. Soon his supplies of food & water began to exhaust. He had no hope of survival & started starving. While trying to somehow escape this ordeal, he found a man lying unconcious in the sand crying for help. The young merchant saw that the man was injured, but had one sip of water left. The young merchant had no strength left for he hadn't had food or water for days. He would die out of thurst & hunger sooner than later. The young merchant drank the water himself & regained some strength. He then carried off the injured man & himself to safety.
Had the young merchant given that water to the man, they both would have died in the desert. He realised that if he had to save the two of them, he must first help himself & be in a position where he could extend a helping hand to others.
Ever wondered why we seek advices on how to study from the toppers or suddenly the guy who gets placed becomes a storehouse of knowledge. Although perhaps he would tell you the same thing as any other guy, but suddenly his words seem to have a bigger meaning for us. If a
Narayan Murthy or a Lakshmi Mittal says something
we listen, don't argue. Why, because they are proven performers.
They can afford to preach now because they helped themselves to attain these dizzy heights.
perfect couple
Let me begin with a small story.
Once upon a time perfect man & perfect woman met. Soon they fell in love & got married. Their life together was ofcourse
perfect.
On a snowy Christmas evening this perfect couple was driving their perfect car along a winding road, when they noticed someone at the side of the road in distress. Being the perfect couple they stopped to help.
There stood Santa Claus with a huge bundle of toys. Not wanting to disappoint any children on christmas eve, the perfect couple loaded Santa & his toys aboard in their car.
Soon they were driving along distributing the toys. Unfortunatley the conditions deteriorated
& the perfect couple & Santa Claus had an acident.
ONLY ONE OF THEM SURVIVED. To find it out read on:
Only the perfect women survived, for she was the only one who existed in the first place. We know Santa Claus is a fictional character & there is no such thing as a
perfect man.
WOMEN STOP READING HERE, thats the end of it.Men read on:
If there was no perfect man & no Santa, then the women must have ben driving, well that explains the accident. By the way if you are a women & still reading that illustrates another point,
women never listen.
This small story was intended at adding a subtle humour before the crux of the matter.
All our lives, we keep looking for that perfect girl/guy, as the case may be, but the fact of the matter remains:
No human is perfect. We all have our own fallibility & we must learn to accept that. The sooner you realise it the better it is because for all you know you might jus tend up learning it the hard way.
wat men want
Having discussed about what women want at length, I now move on to the other side. What men want? Now I have done a extensive research on this topic (I never worked harder even in my MR project) & the
views presented here are a representation of the same.Ask any girl this question & they will be quick to respond,
sex. 'Yes thats all you guys can think of. All men are dogs you see. How so ever decently they may behave but underneth they are all same'. Strong statement ladies. Well thats not entirely false & not entirely true. To find out what I mean read on.
So what is that I love about that girl. I check her out & boy she is hot 'n' sizzling. 'The umph of her sex appeal makes me go wild.' Yaah yaah yaah its her sexy figure, her body (read curls 'n' curves) to put it decently; that attract a guy, other than her face ofcourse.
Ever wondered why some girls are only meant to have sex with (girlfriend material) while when you look at others, well you just keep looking at them. I mean you just can't keep your eye off them. Why is it so,
its not out of lust but out of admiration. Yes this is the kind of girl you would like to be with. 'I can spend the rest of my life just looking in your beautiful eyes' & for a change its true.
When you want to make a girl friend it means you want to get into a relationship for the sake of it. More often than not GFs are like
ornaments you wear to show-off. But when you love the person inside the body, her heart & soul, you don't care of what others think. Thats true love my friend.
Its seldom that someone would love you for
what you are. But when they do, don't wait my friend for opportunity knocks but once on your door. Whereas the smart ones get up & open the door at once, fools complain of noise.
Who is she........
Well for a change, I have introduced the fun & magic of poetry in my blog. So here it goes
Who is she who has crept in my heart,
Sneeking in quitely & becoming its part.
The one whom I cannot get off my mind,
The one who's thoughts make me blind.
When I saw her first, she was hot,
On a second look I liked her a lot.
She called me rude,
when I tried to be a dude.
We started off on the wrong foot with a small fight,
It took us a while to get things all right.
But now we are friends,
A relationship that has no ends.
Can there be more to it I wonder,
But I am afraid to commit a blunder.
Wait for the opportune moment; they say,
But I am confused to go either way.
You will know when its right,
Then with all my might,
Say it loud & say it clear,
I LOVE YOU sweet heart & I have no fear.
wat woman want
DISCLAIMER:THE FOLLOWING IS PURELY A WORK OF FICTION & ANY RESEMBLANCE WITH ANYONE DEAD OR LIVING IS PURELY COINCIDENTAL
Women have been a mystery that even the
'wise' men haven't been able to unravel. Well thats another thing that if they were smart enough they would never tried their hand at it in the first place. So I am not going to even contemplate doing it. What I am going try & do is to try & make some sense out of, well
non-sense.
The first time I looked at her, I found her
hot. On a second look, I liked her a
lot.
'Well to jao talk to her, whats the problem.' Sure sure! hah its easier said than done buddy. I am not shy of girls. I have my own way of interacting with them. I am not a casanova who can just sweep a woman off her feet. I need to get into my zone, become comfortable, get the other person at ease & then play my cards.
Well then what, I get into a conversation with her. Talk around (read as flirt) & slowly but surely become more than just an acquiantance & graduate to a friend (the 'hi/hello' types). A decent beginning, not bad for a start but now you got to build up on that. I often bump into her & we have heart to haert converstions. I really like her & I feel so does she. For a pleasent change I really enjoy spending time with her. A nice company ofcourse but she is not bimbette. I find her talks interesting. For me she is one awesome combination of beauty with brains.
So whats stoppin me. Hmm.... its actually the lack of one to one interactions with her. I have meet her when somebody or the other has been around. Knowing each other, yes, but is it sufficient? I am yet to even take her out.
The biggest crap that girls give you,'I have always seen a friend in you.' 'How could you think of me like this?' oh please. But I know for sure this girl is different. Thats why I want to make my moves carefully, for I love her. My mystery is to be able to charm her & make her feel loved. Will I be able to do it............... well thats a mystery only future can unfold.
TO BE CONTD ................
well if I get to go further
'C' change
My close pals n buddies tell me that I have changed a lot during the last two years. 'Well MBA does transform people' they say. When I look back & retrospect, I have a different view point to it.
'Change is the only thing that is constant in time'. 'Change or perish'Yes I am a different person then I was a couple years ago. Let me go back in time. Until recently I was a B.Com(H) graduate from P.G. D.A.V. College Delhi University aspiring to get into the top B-schools in the country. But as it was to be without any luck. Not having made to the top rug of the management schools I had almost made up my mind to start my own business, with the backing of my father ofcourse. Then virtually out of the blue with everyone insisting I joined Amity Busines School, Noida.
I was a confused man then. With an uncertain future & no clear cut objectives. Without a proper vision I was bound to face problems. I was clearly frustrated & honestly made no attempt to hide it. 'Impressions are never taken but always given', I was a rebel of sorts who wanted to break free.
Slowly but surely I
evolved. (I choose this word after due delibration)
I started understanding myself. What I stood for, who I am & what I wanted in life. I began to realize what is my goal in life & most imporatntly how could I achieve it. It did not happen overnight but yes there was a sea change in my attitude. I became more confident about my own abilities. I developed my own innovative ways to handle issues & problems which haunted others like hell. As they worked I became more & more confident.
It does not mean that I never tasted defeat.
But I was never scared to be wrong. I as a human am bound to make mistakes, but importantly I learned from them & moved on. I had my share of fun to sometimes teasing the teachers & sometime pleasing them. Getting marathon lectures from teachers & friends alike to seking advices from them.
I had my share of heart breaks & for a change cracked a few hearts myself (hey thats the way of life) but all in all it was a wonderful experience which has made a or rather evolved me as a person willing to take on any challenge in life.
Trust me when I say you cannot make a crow, a swan. What you can do though is help him realize that he can be the best crow ever. Thats what I think MBA is all about. It dose not teach you rocket science, neither does it make you an Einstein but what it does do is to make you what you are. If you are able to realize & most importantly become what you really are well then you will be nothing short of being
AWESOME.
in my mind
The attraction towards the opposite sex has been there from eternity & it exists
even more so openly now. So what point I am trying to drive home. No I firmly believe in being striaght so, don't get me wrong.
We come across a lot of people in our lives. But only a select few touch your heart. There was a time when I was smitten by every second girl I saw. But when I interacted with them, got to know them; the fascination didnt last too long. I mean not all of them were really what they projected they were. They were wearing a mask so to say to hide their real identity.
This infact has been the prime reason why relationships don't last. All of us want to project ourselves favourably with others. That lures us to potray a different person than we really are. When we start a relationship everything seems so heavenly. It seems to be the best thing to have ever happened to us. But then when you gradually come to know the harsh reality, it all fades away.
Most girls I have been with seemed, well no offence meant, intersting to begin with. As the relationship grew came their uncalled for advises, their 'overcaring' & 'know the best' syndrome. By no means am I trying to pull the opposite sex down. Men enjoy it. But you got to give space to the other person. Calling up ten times a day may sound romantic but after a while it gets irritating.
As its said 'excess of everything is bad', even love. I enjoyed laying down in lap of my loved one, she playing with hair, I holding her hand n bla bla bla...... but after a certain level, you realize that the person you liked in the first place never existed. It was just a
mirage.What I am trying to imply is one should be true to himself. Its very crucial to know what & who you are. Instead of trying to be everybody just be yourself & yo will be the best.
The good & the bad
They say its the way of life. What begins must come to an end. One wonders, bad things ofcourse should, but why do good things must end. 7 April 2006 would be a landmark day in my life. It is probably the last day of my official life as a student. All these years I have been preparing myself for an ordeal called 'life'. Now I am to face it.
I am confident though a bit weary too. Well I would dearly miss my friends. Now in this big bad world there are more of people waiting slit open your throat at the slightest of opportunity, it will be hard to have such close pals. Life, well its a mystery which we try unravelling for the whole of our lives. But it never fails to amaze.
Good or bad, right or wrong I am here to win. Not just to be another guy, but a force to reckon with.
Its very crucial that I succeed in my endeavors for my life depends on them.
Is it worth it?
The first thing that you guys must be wondering after reading the title is 'is it worth what?'. Patience people I am gonna dwell on a very crucial but potentially neglected part of us- our selves
Yes u read it right. I often thought why am I on this earth? Is there any meaning attached to it or is it just fluke? There are so many of us each one striving for some or the other goal. But why am I here, whats the purpose of my life. Sounding a bit philosphical, but thats a realisation we must have better late than never & when we do trust me; our world would change upside down.
It is strange that I understood its importance in an otherwise futile sesion in my B-school. The prof. there gave us (1st sem.) a project whereby we were to prepare a presentation on our career goals & how we planned to achieve them. I thought it was easy. But trust me honestly it was tough. I was at a complete loss of words. My whole orientation changed. 'I want to be a leader' thats what we had crammed in our stints at MBA coaching classes.
But now I was no longer an MBA aspirant but an MBA student. That answer was too loose & vague now. I had to be more specific & purposeful. Hence I embarked upon an exercise of self introspection. I learnt to know myself better. What I am & what I want to be.Its an exercise that I am undertaking even as I write. We must contionously try & discover ourselves for there may be some facets that even we might not be aware of.
till next time happy blogging
